jowel like the new way people say joel, i think?
if you care to know who i am, here goes...
i'm a guy who has made a lot of mistakes. like, a lot a lot
i failed my (soon to be ex) wife, my kids, my career, and plenty of friends
i have an older son not pictured above because i doubt he would want to be
he's incredible, and he's the person who made me a father
but i became a really shitty father for a long time
i became the person my father told me to never become
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but after a lot of therapy, inner child work, looking inward, and finding the best ways for me to heal... i can now celebrate more good stuff:
i am really good, if not insanely great at things i want to be really good at:
i want to be a great father who cherishes every single moment i have with my kids
i want to be a great friend that tries to remember the little things, as well as how to properly support every single one of my friends
i want to connect with people with great energy & people who can teach me things i need to learn - usually that's the same person
i want to give 100% of my trust to people i feel are authentic. yes, many eventually prove me wrong, which of course sucks... but i'll never change that about me because all it takes is one lifetime connection to change my life for the best, and i'm fortunate i feel i have a few of those now... all of which wouldn't have happened if i was still in the mental prison of punishment i created for myself in 2025
i want to create something that helps heal everyone who has been hurt for far longer than they realize, or maybe don't even realize... the worst type of hurt is the kind that hides deep inside us after a life of building walls to protect us from the outside...
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there's a lot more to know about me, what i do, what i'm good at, etc... but none of that really matters. it's my ability and willingness to genuinely & authentically connect with other amazing people that makes it so i excel at everything i decide i want to do
honestly... it really is that simple
i don't need to prove it to you, because i'm confident that if you decide you want to do the same... your own results will prove it too
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my best friend has taught me a couple things i think about every single day, and i want to share it with you as well...
1) people come into our life for a reason, a season, or a lifetime - which one will you decide to be for me?
i'm capable & willing to be a lifetime connection for you, but if you decide to be one of the others, that's cool too
2) there's a very simple jamaican phrase that only she fully understands why it means so much to me, and i can assure you it will be part of me forever
you can click on it to see what it means if you don't already know
lastly - thank you for being here, and if you ever need me...